For My Insiders

Historically, particularly in Biblical times, red tents have been places where women would go to separate themselves during their menstrual cycles and following pregnancy. Consequently, they would rest, recharge and connect with other women in the tent. I can only imagine what this must have been like – generations of women, unwinding, healing, recharging, and experiencing the fellowship of other women. There is even a fascinating book by Anita Diamant and movie with the name, Red Tent. The movie is on Netflix, so check it out if you can. I loved it! On 3rd June 2017, FemmePowered will host a red-tent styled Cocktails & Conversations. There’s no tent or cocktails (just wine), but the idea is to meet, connect, share and find community with each other. This private event is for my insiders only. I’m opening it up only to persons on the mailing list and those who have been supportive of FemmePowered from…

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Whose holding us up?

Damn, I love when popular culture tackles serious issues! All week I’ve been speaking about self care and the black woman. The black woman is a perennial martyr. She gives and gives, is expected to be strong, keep shit together, hold everyone down. Hold that man down, they say. Keep those kids in order. Make that money, girl! But who holds us down? Scandal’s character Mya Pope (aka Mamma Pope) speaks volumes in the short clip below. In less than two minutes of sound bites, she channels all the strong black women I love and admire. These are women who have boldly spoken up for women of African ancestry. I listen to her and I hear echoes of bell hook, Patricia Collins, Nina Simone, Mya Angelou, Audre Lorde, Angela Davis. The speech is iconic. I just need to know, who wrote this monologue?  

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Domestic violence and self care – An interview

Hello all yuh! So last night I did a Facebook Be Live with Mellany Paynter of Mellany Motivates. Mellany is all about promoting self-care among women of color. In my last post, I shared an audio interview I did with her. Last night, we turned the tables. We talk about the catalyst behind FemmePowered, my abuse story, self-care and women of color. This is the first ever video interview where I share my story and experience with domestic violence and the strategies I used to find healing and wholeness. It’s raw, open and my truth. Check it out below and feel free to leave a comment.

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Self care and the black woman

Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare. – Audre Lorde (black feminist) How do you tend your temple? What does self-care mean to you? Do you get it from a jar of cold cream, a spa vacation or is it an internal construct? And how does it manifest in your daily life? I think self-care starts from a place of being aware of our worthiness. Once we understand that we are worthy and deserving of a whole relationships with ourselves, we make the time and effort to tend to all facets of our temple – mind, body, spirit, emotions. Listen to my conversation on self care and the black woman with Mellany Paynter of Mellany Motivates . In this episode of the Coffee & Conversation series on Tending the Temple – Black Women & Self Care, we explore how ideas like the…

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Life editing and self-care

First off, I want to say Happy Mothers day to all the mothers and nurturers who frequent this space. Hope you laugh a lot and be pampered for the queen you are. Now, let’s talk about self-care and life editing. Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare. – Audre Lorde (black feminist) These days I’ve been thinking about the connection between self-care and life-editing. Often, I take a personal inventory of what I need to change, improve, let go. Upon returning from a recent work trip, I felt an incredible sense of urgency to do some editing. I started sharing this with a friend, and it gave rise to me really reflecting on what life-editing means and why it is so important that we all take the time to edit our lives by shedding the things that fail to honor and serve…

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