Many of my clients often share with me their struggles to create a conducive environment for writing.
Take, for instance, a passionate memoirist I’ve been coaching for a month. As she eagerly awaited the release of her book, based on her intimate journals, she grappled with editing her manuscript. Over a heart-to-heart coffee session, she opened up about the underlying issue: her partner’s unsupportive attitude. Each time she settled down to write, her partner’s restlessness was palpable. His visible discomfort every time she powered up her computer weighed heavily on her, making her feel that he was subtly undermining her creative journey.
Her candid revelation prompted me to draft this post, offering ways to cultivate a nurturing writing space. Whether you’re crafting a memoir like her or merely penning down fleeting thoughts, these suggestions should resonate:
Write Authentically. Put your heart on the paper. Often, we’re our own worst critics, doubting our narratives and trivializing our stories. We over-complicate the writing process, attributing our hesitations to ‘writer’s block’ or a ‘lack of muse’. Remember, every facet of life is a tale waiting to be told – from mundane moments to thrilling adventures. Embrace these narratives, and you’ll be surprised how they pave the way for even more stories.
Establish Your Unique Routine. While I’d love to pen 1,000 words every morning, it’s seldom feasible. Dreamy writing plans are enticing, but realism prevails. If you aren’t a morning person, don’t force dawn writing sessions. Avoid setting up writing times when you’re typically low on energy or distracted. Discover your optimal writing hours and stick to them, adjusting as needed.
Engage with Your Loved Ones. Transparency is key. Discuss your writing aspirations with those you live with. Help them understand the importance of your writing journey, and request uninterrupted pockets of time. Perhaps, explain to your spouse that while you’re immersed in your writing, it’s not the best moment to chat about daily chores or news. Set boundaries, maybe even hang a ‘Do Not Disturb’ sign. Stand firm and remind them occasionally, ensuring they value your writing time as they would any other professional commitment.
Advocate for Yourself. If you encounter resistance or a lack of support, as my client did, initiate a conversation. It might be challenging, but it’s vital. Don’t hide behind excuses; instead, carve out opportunities to rendezvous with your words. After all, your writing deserves the same respect and dedication as any other cherished aspect of your life.
Remember, every writer’s journey is unique, but with the right environment and support system, the path becomes a little smoother. Happy writing!