Whose holding us up?

Damn, I love when popular culture tackles serious issues! All week I’ve been speaking about self care and the black woman. The black woman is a perennial martyr. She gives and gives, is expected to be strong, keep shit together, hold everyone down. Hold that man down, they say. Keep those kids in order. Make that money, girl! But who holds us down? Scandal’s character Mya Pope (aka Mamma Pope) speaks volumes in the short clip below. In less than two minutes of sound bites, she channels all the strong black women I love and admire. These are women who have boldly spoken up for women of African ancestry. I listen to her and I hear echoes of bell hook, Patricia Collins, Nina Simone, Mya Angelou, Audre Lorde, Angela Davis. The speech is iconic. I just need to know, who wrote this monologue?

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Domestic violence and self care – An interview

Hello all yuh! So last night I did a Facebook Be Live with Mellany Paynter of Mellany Motivates. Mellany is all about promoting self-care among women of color. In my last post, I shared an audio interview I did with her. Last night, we turned the tables. We talk about the catalyst behind FemmePowered, my abuse story, self-care and women of color. This is the first ever video interview where I share my story and experience with domestic violence and the strategies I used to find healing and wholeness. It’s raw, open and my truth. Check it out below and feel free to leave a comment.

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Self care and the black woman

Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare. – Audre Lorde (black feminist) How do you tend your temple? What does self-care mean to you? Do you get it from a jar of cold cream, a spa vacation or is it an internal construct? And how does it manifest in your daily life? I think self-care starts from a place of being aware of our worthiness. Once we understand that we are worthy and deserving of a whole relationships with ourselves, we make the time and effort to tend to all facets of our temple – mind, body, spirit, emotions. Listen to my conversation on self care and the black woman with Mellany Paynter of Mellany Motivates . In this episode of the Coffee & Conversation series on Tending the Temple – Black Women & Self Care, we explore how ideas like the…

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Life editing and self-care

First off, I want to say Happy Mothers day to all the mothers and nurturers who frequent this space. Hope you laugh a lot and be pampered for the queen you are. Now, let’s talk about self-care and life editing. Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare. – Audre Lorde (black feminist) These days I’ve been thinking about the connection between self-care and life-editing. Often, I take a personal inventory of what I need to change, improve, let go. Upon returning from a recent work trip, I felt an incredible sense of urgency to do some editing. I started sharing this with a friend, and it gave rise to me really reflecting on what life-editing means and why it is so important that we all take the time to edit our lives by shedding the things that fail to honor and serve…

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Tending the temple

Every time I travel, I return feeling different. Almost new, almost like I am about to transition or take my life to another stage. Maybe it’s the plane ride, or the chance to step away from my regular cycle that brings it on. I’ve never been able to figure it out. Whatever it is, I am learning to lean in and not resist what follows it. Recently I returned from a work trip with a sense of urgency to edit my life. This trip not only provided me the opportunity to represent a client and support a friend, it also gave me a chance to reconnect with my Trini roots, spend time with one of my dearest friends, and connect with my uncles and cousin. My father’s brothers are strong, opinionated men. They got that from my grandma. They stand back and watch you live your life, but at the opportune…

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