My ancestors are my entourage

This week promises to be challenging on so many levels. But I am ready. I have the love of those who have me, my inner strength and the unrivaled power of my ancestors. I am learning to channel them (my ancestors) because they are wise and loving and they have gone before me. They are a roadmap and guide to my present and even future. Yes, Roadmaps and Guides. So when I walk into a situation, I never go alone. I bring my people with me. I bring everyone who has loved me with me when I face a potential client or a disturbing challenge. I summon the boldness of my maternal and paternal grandmas, who were gutsy, feisty, fearless, unapologetic, graceful and strong women. On reflection, I now see them as disrupters and feminists, ahead of their time in many ways. I also channel the grace of my uncle,…

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Wholeness is yours for the taking.

You walk around with brokenness, believing that healing is beyond you. You use brokenness as a crutch, sometimes even a badge of honor, never daring the see what a whole life could look like. Fear, shame, self-doubt, and issues of unworthiness abound within. Yeah, I see, you sister girl, I see you. I see you and I know, because those who’ve been there identify with it in others. I have my insecurities. I’m sure you do, too. But I am determined in letting my truth speak louder than any broken image I may have of myself, and I am careful to not allow the world to inform the reality of who I am to me. I am thankful for the handful of women I know have my heart and I can call friends because they affirm me and encourage me when my crazy starts to show and the outer critic starts…

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Wintering Season

I’m a doer. I’m always busy, always planning, always on the go. Slow does not come naturally. My mind will not allow it, but I am learning to move at an unhurried pace. Even with my writing and blogging and the pace, I put on events. For a while, I have been quiet here, and it’s because I felt like it was necessary to be quiet. The words did not come easily, and the inspiration to share valuable material just wasn’t there. I understood that this was my wintering season – a period where I will rest from this space. You can’t give from a place of emptiness. You need respite, self-care inspiration, wisdom and more to make an impact, especially with words. So I wintered because I recognized I need to do so if I was to continue making this space worthy of my time and your attention. At times…

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Grace and Cocktails

There is an incredible urge to me to write this morning. I have felt this way for some time, but I have been hiding from the words.  Sad. You see, I have always connected with myself at the end of my pen. Something on a deeper level will surface, grab me and pull me in when I find the courage to put pen on papers and explore my inner workings and many layers. My words are powerful on many levels – they bring healing, clarity, peace, perspective, and help me extend grace to myself and others as well. Grace. Hmm. Oh, sweet grace. This word fills me up and etches on to the broken spaces within me like no other. It allows me to make meaning of my experiences and what lays before me. It allows me the opportunity to extend grace to myself and give others the grace to be…

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Cocktail & Convo: Let’s talk Child Sexual Abuse

If you’ve been following the news, you’ll know that child sexual abuse is a major problem on our island and serious cause for concern. In our final installment of Cocktail & Convo for 2017, we have chosen this very important topic to be our focus.  Please join us as we delve deeper into this topic with a view of protecting our children and exploring ways for healing and care of the abused and vulnerable. In this Cocktails & Conversations, we will explore topics such as: Providing information on the difference between safe and unsafe touching; How parents can teach children the body parts that are considered private; Signs that should be not ignored Ensuring that children are aware of who to go to when they feel unsafe or confused The need to teach children assertive language skills And more… Contributors to the conversation are: Counseling psychologist Josh Hector Abuse survivor…

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