Tending the Temple and Wise Women

How is your haal? What is this haal that you inquire about?  I recently learned that this is how folks greet others in Arabic cultures.  How is your haal? What is this haal that you inquire about?  Or in English – how is your heart doing at this very moment? Something about this struck a chord with me. It is now my greeting of choice because it shows that I really want to hear what your heart is saying. We’ve let the cult of busyness cause us to become disconnected. We ask others how they’re doing without really caring for an answer, without really wanting to hear. And for the brave soul who decides to actually respond, we stare back stunned, because this person has chosen to believe we really have the time to listen or a genuine interest in what they have to say. How is your heart? At this moment, my…

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On leaving social media

I’ve been quiet here for a social media for the last six weeks to two months. Social media is great in many ways, but as with most things, there’s a downside. Like the noise that comes with it. I decided to turn off the noise, lean into silence and stopped posting or deactivated most of my social media accounts. It was liberating to press some buttons and delete accounts. Twitter? Gone! Pinterest and Facebook, poof! Yet for some reason, I struggled with Instagram. The urge to see what others were posting and share what I felt would be a gem was great, but I resisted the urge. Now the time has come. Today, I’m saying goodbye to the gram and telling you about what I gained by giving up social media. I remember when social media used to be fun, and people were truly engaging with others. It seems like…

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Rest and Self-care

How rest is important for self-care “Take care”. It’s a phrase that we throw around quite a lot, not only to friends and family but even to strangers. We bid a shopkeeper goodbye and we tell them to “take care”. It’s a lovely thing. But how often do we take our own advice to “take care”?! In today’s fast-paced, work-centric society, we rarely remember to look after ourselves properly. We work too hard, we party too much and we sleep too little. Even our so-called leisure activities, things like yoga, for example, have lost their mindful roots to be replaced by a competitive streak. We strive to push ourselves constantly; whether it’s achieving the perfect headstand or getting that promotion (which we don’t really want anyway). The result? We become stressed, anxious, and burnt-out. We stop enjoying life and start to see it as something to endure instead. Doesn’t sound…

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Holding space

We met at the airy art gallery on the Carenage (Art Upstairs) that overlooks the water. All week, I’d been looking forward to the meeting and fleshing out of our collective and discussing our first event. As a creative and advocate, being part of something that brings transformation and makes meaning for others has a tendency to cause my heart to constrict and find breath again every at the very thought. So all week leading up to our meeting, I would jot notes in my phone or computer when an idea came to me. I did not want to miss a thing. Not intending to have the meeting on International Day of Women, it was a delightful serendipity to later realize that we would be meeting on this day. As a person who is big on signs, this was a good omen, to me.  The stars aligned in support of…

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Create space in your life for yourself

How have you all been? It’s been a minute, hasn’t it? I’ve been doing others things that have kept me away from this space, all in the interest of self-care. Yes, I know you’re probably tired of hearing this oh-so-popularized buzzword, but it’s true. Self-care matters. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Since I last touched in I’ve been spending a lot of time taking in podcasts, listening to audiobooks, spending time with those people that are really important to me, reading, exercising and getting a lot of rest. Since starting FemmePowered, I have been going, going, going. If I’m not planning an event, I reviewing one, preparing content for the blog, writing articles for other sites, partnering with others with the same passion for women and community. Having and maintaining a self-care practice has been missing from my life for a long time. And I have felt the impact of its…

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