I’d be lost without my pen and journal. For me, writing is essential like food, water and laughter. Through writing, I experience emotional transformation that stems from a deep, meaningful and authentic place. I experience this when I choose to confront the things I carry, the emotions that threaten to engulf me, the things that keep me up at night. Research has proven that writing can help anyone and everyone. Not just the published author or people who consider themselves writers. Studies have also found that it can prolong our lives. I suppose this is understandable because we oftentimes experience catharsis, a release of emotions and feelings, when we write.
Writing has helped me to examine my life and put things into perspective. When you write from a place of openness and honesty, you’re sure to experience some illumination. And by adjusting my perspective I’ve come to experienced wisdom, authenticity, boldness and self-acceptance. Writing may not take away the pain I experienced as a battered wife but it helps me have a different relationship with the abuse.
When I started penning my personal stories, the things I felt kept me hurt and bound, I experienced a new sense of freeness. But I also experienced other things too. I felt more comfortable in my skin, I fell in love with myself all over again, I became bold and unapologetic about who I am and I felt truly happier. For me, I can truly say, that writing makes the heart merry. So why do we write or more so, why should we write?
No fancy equipment or tools are needed, just a pen, pencil and a scrap of paper or a cheap notepad.
It is easy.
It does not take much of our time. It’s cheaper than driving across town to cry on a friend’s shoulder or getting to the office of a therapist. We can do it anywhere and anytime, frequently or infrequently.
It does not ask for a prerequisite.
Anyone can do this. You don’t have to have a great handwriting or the best spelling, you don’t need a semester of writing under your belt or attended a writing course. Your syntax can be off and your subject and verbs need not agree. The mechanics of ‘good writing’ don’t matter. You only need to have a desire to pen the story within.
It is flexible.
We don’t have to do it everyday, same time, same place. We can write when we feel moved to or we can make a ritual out of it, including it in our daily life. We can do it in bed, on the train, during the week or on weekends. We do it at our preferred time, place and pace.
I’ve seen how women can transform their lives by writing their stories. So many times we stifle the story within, only to our detriment. As a Story Midwife I act as a coach, guide and mentor who supports you in exploring and telling your story. I stand back and watch you birth wonder, perspective and meaningful change in your life from telling your story. The story is already there. Perhaps it’s time to get it out. Feel free to get in touch if you have questions or would like to work with me.
Carlana Charles is the visionary and editor-in-chief of FemmePowered. She is a womanist, writer, speaker, story midwife and facilitator of meaningful and engaging conversations. When she is not working in or on FemmePowered, she can be found resting, baking, reading or scribbling furiously in her journal whilst sipping wine or coffee, sometimes both at the same time. She is currently working on her first book and hopes to release it in September 2018.