I believe we tell our stories to make meaning of our experiences, release ourselves from hurts, gain or share a perspective, to seem less alone and also to evolve and grow beyond those stories. As we tell our stories, we experience transformation, awareness and give others the opportunity to see the world from our lens. Through storytelling, we foster a spirit of empathy, understanding and gain new insights and perspectives into the experiences of others.
But telling our stories isn’t always easy and telling our stories when we have not healed from them, especially the loaded, soul-stirring ones. Putting pen on paper to face our fears, past and shortcomings can be cathartic.
Author Brene Brown says:
Our job is not to deny the story, but to defy the ending—to rise strong, recognize our story, and rumble with the truth until we get to a place where we think: Yes, this is what happened. This is my truth. And I will choose how this story ends.
So we lean into the discomfort and tell our stories. We may not be able to share them openly with a friend or here on Aye Gyal but we can always put them on paper and empty the things we carry. We lean into it and re-live the tough emotions, because oftentimes, they best way through something is to go through it, fully engaged. No short-cuts. No quick fixes, but going through, immersed and totally involved.
It’s so easy to anesthetize our pain with new relationships, drugs, alcohol, recreation and other forms of distraction. Perhaps it’s time to take a different approach. Maybe we need to journey through or stories and lean into the initial discomfort we may experience from facing them. Today I invite you to give voice to the stories within. Grab a pen and some paper and write about the things that keep you up at night, the things that tug at the strings of your heart, the things that are painful, confusing or joyful. Let’s journey through these stories, fully invested, hearts broken. Numbing and quick fixes never work. Let’s try something new. Amazing things happen when we put pen to paper and write from a place of truth.
Carlana Charles is the visionary and editor-in-chief of FemmePowered. She is a womanist, writer, speaker, story midwife, writer and facilitator of meaningful and engaging conversations. When she is not working in or on FemmePowered, she can be found bingeing on Netflix, baking or scribbling furiously in her journal whilst sipping on wine and coffee – sometimes both at the same time. She is currently working on her first book and hopes to release it in September 2017.