The FemmePowered Back Story
I officially launched FemmePowered on 15 December 2014, on the one year anniversary of a battering from my then husband that left me hospitalized and having to do facial surgery. The final attack took place on my mom’s birthday, making the ordeal much harder on me and my family. This beating was the beating of beatings, the one to bring our marriage to an end. I was convinced that if I we remained married, he’d eventually kill me. He often threatened to, and after seeing my blood splattered across the bedroom walls and furniture, and soak into the bed linen, clothing and curtains, I certainly knew it was well within his capacity to do so.
Our marriage had been rocky for a very long time and abuse was common but I never thought that he’d beat me to the point of breaking my bones and spilling my blood. I also never thought I’d have to live through the shame, abandonment, the gossip and much of what I had to endure post battering. Oddly, the abuse continued after the incident. This time by the system and people’s ignorance. I never thought I’d be denied access to counseling and resources that would help repair my mind and body and it devastated me when the legal system, designed to protect battered and abused women like myself, would fail and humiliate me. I also never expected people in this day and age would feel that abuse was justifiable.
Following that fateful day, I experienced much physical and emotional pain and the recovery was grueling. Thankfully, God heals. I took the time to work on myself and get my mind, heart and body right because I understood that there are many layers to healing from an abusive relationship.
Through writing and journalling, prayer and God’s grace, things started opening up. Life is getting better and I’m proud of the woman I’m evolving into. The best days are ahead for me; of that I’m convinced. I’m more than a survivor. I’m an overcomer, a thriving woman and I’m committed to helping others who have walked a similar road or experience powerlessness.
A year later, on the anniversary of that beating, hospitalization and surgery, I launched FemmePowered to help empower women, no matter their story. I could not think of a more fitting day to do so. Not only does it take away the sting of what happened on that day, it replaces it with a mission and purpose that’s bigger than myself and the pain I endured.
Perspective is everything. You can see a seed in the ground as something that’s buried or you can see it as something with the ability to create new life. I opted for the latter and my hope is to use FemmePowered to let others know that there is hope and better things ahead. You can use your life’s circumstances as a seed that will birth something new or you can see yourself as dead and buried. Either way, you attitude will affect your altitude and determine the course of your life. At some point we need to go from being victims to living a life of victory.
Let’s get a conversation started and talk about abuse of women. It is real and it is prevalent and many women suffer in silence. Abuse is not just a personal issue, its a societal one too. We are all affected. And let’s not just stop at violence against women. Not all women experience violence but many know what it is to feel powerless, limited, marginalized and lead somewhat limited lives.