The power of words and how they can define us.

Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can’t hurt me. Really? As a child growing up in the Caribbean, those words, followed by the sticking out of my tongue were my defense when some friend, classmate or cousin said something about my acne-riddled face, my bony frame, my forehead (which they called a five-head) or attacked my personality or my hand-me-downs. At the time, it sounded  like a sensible retort. After all mere words could never cut as much as a stick or a stone. But I knew differently and I always had, even as a shy, clumsy, skinny, acne-riddled and self-conscious girl. From my time in an abusive marriage I can honestly say that it was the words that hurt the most. Nasty missives that were meant to diminish me, humiliate and make me feel inconsequential. Yes, the beatings did hurt but when the bruises were gone and the…

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examining the choices we communicate

Choices. Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about choices and how they affect us whether we are directly or indirectly involved in the choosing process. In everything we do (and don’t do) we communicate a choice. I can choose to get up early and spend some time in prayer or devotion or I choose to stay in bed a little longer. I can also watch Netflix instead of working on my writing projects or programs. As women, we need to understand the importance of communicating our choices. If we don’t we force other to do the choosing for us. And each time we fail to communicate our choices, we give up bits and pieces of our power and autonomy. Not that having others choose for us is necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes it’s necessary or helpful, too. I recently went to this trendy restaurant with a friend where everything on the menu was…

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Pink Run 5K

Cancer sucks. Let’s do what we can to help fight this disease and increase awareness and raise money, too. Yesterday,VP of Communications for Women in Medicine at St. George’s University and I met to do some brainstorming on how to promote the upcoming on April 19. This will be the third year of the event at the University and the hope is to make it bigger and better. All proceeds will go directly to the Grenada Cancer Society in an effort to further female reproductive cancer diagnostics and treatments. Definitely a worthy cause. Sign up for the run, share the post around and do you part to help raise funds and spread awareness. You can get more information on the events page on Facebook. You can also inbox  Ophelia Tran, VP of Communications for Women for more details. My partner in crime NappyBella and I will be running. Together, we can all make a difference. We…

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As I began to love myself

I stumbled across this poem and it touched me deeply. Since I like sharing deep stuff, I thought why not share it with you, my dear reader. Ponder on it, process it and take it with you into the start on this week and beyond. The poem was written by Charlie Chaplin the famous entertainer of the silent film period. It is said that he wrote it on his 70th birthday! Go figure! I would hope he came to the realizations expressed in his poem before his birthday but stumbling into a great realization is a beautiful thing, no matter the age! As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is AUTHENTICITY. As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody as I try…

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Writing Makes My Heart Merry

There’s something about pen on paper and keystroke followed by keystroke I find comforting. It’s almost as if with each stroke of the pen or strike of the keyboard, I feel my stresses and burdens leaving me. Something about opening up my mind and heart and sharing it on paper makes me feel strengthened, hopeful, bold and fearless. Through highs and lows the pen and the keyboard have been a source of solace, comfort and hope. I truly believe in the therapeutic power of writing. I believe in the power of the written word to change, shape, transform and empower. Join me in my signature program birthing and discover how writing can change your life and empower you.

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