Appreciate someone today

Ever since I lost my dad as a young girl, I make a point of letting the people who mean something and matter to me know just how I feel about them and I do this on a regular basis. I encourage others to do the same, too. Not only does this keep your relationships strong, in the event something happens, you don’t feel saddled with the guilt of not letting them knowing how you feel. I come from a family where affection is a big thing. Even as adults my mom still make a big fuss over us and we dote on her and each other. It’s not an uncommon sight to see a one of us fighting to sit on her lap, even as adults. Everyone’s family is different and trying to sit on your mom’s lap at 30 may be unfathomable to you, but letting your family…

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Stopping the media’s attack on your body

I don’t know about you, but I’m tired of the ongoing message that the natural, curvy, womanly body I was born into is unacceptable. I’m tired of being horrified when I hear that five-year old girls already criticize their bodies and think they need to lose weight. I’m tired of the media forcing their limited, unattainable version of beauty on us. The underweight beauty ideal of today is a complete invention of the media machine. Nature never intended women  to look like teenage boys with large breasts, but the relentless media depiction of this body type powerfully defines it as the ultimate in beauty. Without starvation and plastic surgery, it’s impossible for 99% of women to achieve this ideal. So we learn to dislike our naturally gorgeous bodies and try desperately to change them. The toxic body messages we are deluged with every day cause eating disorders and widespread unhappiness.…

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Abusive Relationships – Planning and Executing Your Getaway

I found this great post and wanted to share it here. This article is meant to be a general guide to planning your escape. It does not contain addresses, contacts, and phone numbers. It is not specific to one state or country. Rather, it describes options and institutions which are common the world over. You should be the one to “fill in the blanks” and locate the relevant shelters and agencies in your domicile. Read this article on other options and getting help! Do not leave unprepared. Study and execute every detail of your getaway. This is especially important if your partner is violent. Be sure to make a Safety Plan – how to get out of the house unnoticed and the indispensable minimum items that you should carry with you, even on a short notice. Here are the recommendations of the Province of Alberta in Canada: Long before you…

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Welcome 2015. Goodbye 2014.

Wow, what a year. Mine started rocky. I was unsure, broken and miserable for a while but in retrospect this was the best year I can recall. Breaking with the past opened up the future to me and when I let go of it all, the living present was better than the past. Perspective is really everything. You can opt to stay broken, alone or sad or you can take all the bad stuff, sift it, take the lessons and move on, empowered with knowledge and the wisdom that only experience brings. So many plans for 2015. I’m beyond stoked. It feels so good to be alive to embrace what’s coming. I encourage you to let go of the hurts and pains and disappointments of 2014 and embrace all the goodness that will await you in 2015. I want to wish you the very best. You deserve it and I…

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My one year anniversary

Exactly year ago today. I underwent facial surgery to repair damaging that came about due to the battering,  beaten by my ex-husband,  I was nervous, yet prayerful. I’d never before that point had to undergo any sort of surgery and I did not know what to expect. But I prayed and trusted that God would keep me safe and He did. Today marks the one year anniversary of my successful surgery. I have not had post surgery pain for months and I’m thankful that the lone scar that remains is barely visible. You’d have to be right up to my face, looking for a scar because you knew it was there. More so, I’m thankful that no scars remains on my soul. For a while it was hard. Something in you breaks when the person who you expect to care and shield you becomes the one who inflicts pain upon your body…

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