Writing unsent letters

‘We were always at it with each other. The last fight was the nastiest. I said some hurtful things I did not mean. After all, it was a fight. I got the call a few weeks later. He was dead. He died and I never got to tell him I was sorry. He died believing I meant all the mean and hurtful things I said to him‘. Since starting my work as a story coach to women, this by far, has been one of the hardest stories I’ve heard. It was four years since her uncle’s death but the emotions of that last conversation were still real to her. So we did an exercise I love to do – writing an unsent letter. Writing unsent letters allow us to shed emotional baggage about a situation or person. In Mary’s* case, not only did it allow her to have a last conversation with her uncle it…

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How violence against women manifests

Over the weekend I caught up with an old friend. She recently returned home after her marriage broke down and we reconnected on Facebook. Reading the things she shared on Facebook and speaking with her again made me realize why we connected to begin with. She’s my kind of gal – smart, well spoken, ambitious, funny, has a good head on her shoulders and she knows how to have fun! As we shared pieces of our life and caught up on almost ten years, I realized how many of us women share stories of abuse. I know the stats that say 1 in every 4 (or 6 depending on the source) women have been abused – physically, sexually or verbally. Grim, huh? After conversing with her and explaining the many ways violence against women can manifest itself, it finally dawned on her, years after the relationship had ended, that it was an…

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Putting a face to domestic violence. Meet Emma Murphy.

This video is deeply disturbing and equally heartbreaking. Why? Because it shows you just how deep domestic violence cuts a person. It also addresses many of the manifestations of domestic violence – the physical, emotional and psychological. I cried as I watched the video below. You could feel her pain, the raw emotion. As a survivor, I’m acquainted with her pain and I feel that we are a part of some sordid, but very real sisterhood of battered women. Emma spoke from a place of vulnerability and put herself out there and she’s willing to walk away from a relationship that is failing to serve her. Incredibly bold and brave. Reading the comments on YouTube after the video is incredibly disheartening. People can be so mean, cruel, insensitive and downright nasty. It’s easy to understand why violence against women is so prevalent. She touched on many truths in her short video. Some of these…

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Birthing Project August 2015 Workshop

I’m doing it again! So I’ve just set the date and time for the August 2015 workshop. In case you missed the first one, no worries, it’s coming back. On Sunday 9 August at 1PM, we’ll convene upon a quaint little cottage in the country and spend the afternoon with our pens and journals. If you’re tech savvy you can bring your laptop too but I’d rather you bring something you can write on. Similar to the first time around, there will be laughing, crying, reflecting, discovering of truths. Because this time I’m running the workshop in the evening, no food will be served but there’ll be light and filling snacks such as muffins, cornbread, cookies, cake and of course, copious cups of tea and coffee. There will also be water and juice. The workshop is a hands-on, intimate sort of affair on personal storytelling, creative life writing and deep soul journaling.  At the end of…

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Shedding relationships that are not working.

Happy Wednesday! Remember that conversation I told you Liz and I were having on shedding relationships that fail to serve? I’ve got it here for you. It’s right below. Hope you enjoy it and if you have any questions feel free to get in touch. You can get in touch with Liz via her site, the Self Discovery Diva. Let her know you liked the talk or you’d like to work with her. You can also post your comments below – PS: I know I love shiny and my eyes were looking crazy, no comment on that necessary 🙂 Just let me know if you found value in the conversation and if you’d welcome more content like that in the future.

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