The phone is constantly engaged. The internet keeps going down, your appointment got cancelled and you only found out when you got there. Oh, and your bus is late. Why do minor hassles like these have the potential to make us uptight? Maybe it’s because we’re tightly wound already and can’t find the pressure relief valve. Balancing the pressures of home life and work life are vital so that we get optimum amounts of the adrenaline buzz to stay healthy and enjoy the whole life! So here are a few thing to try when the going gets tough:
- Work out what is actually inside or outside your control. And don’t tell yourself “I cannot deal with this” when you mean “I will not deal with this”.
- Stop driving yourself with inner messages that say “I must please” or “I must hurry up” or “I must be perfect” or “I must be strong”. Instead, ask yourself “What’s the worst that can happen?”
- Learn when to say “no” and when to say “yes. Especially when to say NO. Be consistent so that people know where they stand with you. You may falter in the popularity rankings, but you’ll gain control of your time, space, energy and who you share it with.
- Find the light at the end of the tunnel. We can more happily accept a 14 hour working day, screaming children, or a nagging boss if we know when the end will be! Talk to people; share your situation; and find out what the possibilities are. Then act on them.
- Reserve “me” time (e.g. sport, hobbies, long bubble baths, light reading) as well as time for all the other roles in your life (e.g. spouse, parent, mentor, lover).
- Stomp round the block! Exercise is a great way to use up excess adrenaline; it keeps you in condition and can be a source of thinking time.
- Have a laugh! Laughter is such a great way to relieve pressure, so find more ways to enjoy yourself with the people who make you feel great!
How do you manage the pressures of life?
Carlana Charles is the visionary and editor-in-chief of FemmePowered. She is a womanist, writer, speaker, story midwife and facilitator of meaningful and engaging conversations. When she is not working in or on FemmePowered, she can be found resting, baking, reading or scribbling furiously in her journal whilst sipping wine or coffee, sometimes both at the same time. She is currently working on her first book and hopes to release it in September 2018.