When’s the last time you did something just for you? Can you recall without thinking too hard about it? I’ve been thinking a lot about how we sometimes fail to make time for ourselves. We’re often so busy running through life, ticking things off our to-do lists, making time and space for everything and everyone and we forget to most important person of all. Ourselves. I’ve been there. Scratch that, I’m still there. I’m recovering from self neglect because I realize that there will always be a dream to chase or some project to catch up on, but if I’m burnt-out, tired and not healthy of taking care of myself, I may not live to realize my dreams or reach my goals and if I do, I probably wouldn’t be able to enjoy them.
One of my resolutions for 2015 is to take better care of myself. Not just my body, but my mind and spirit. So I’ve been intentional about stepping away from it all ever so often to just focus on me, the person and not the goals, the dream, the everything else. I still have a lot of work to do on this journey to self care but I’m grateful that its a journey and not a sprint!
I spent most of the last weekend in bed reading and catching up on some Netflix. I also went to the beach for the first time in about 3 months which is kinda sad because I live on an island which boasts arguably some of the best beaches in the world. For a slight moment I felt a bit guilty, like I should be catching up on something work-related reading and not enjoying my weekend read, The No. 1 Ladies Detective Agency. Yes, the title does pull you in but the writing is superb and the stories deliciously riveting. Go get a copy.
But I digress. The little time I made for myself made me feel so energized and just relaxed. And I deserved it. There’s no crime in that is there? Who sold us the lie that we have to keep going, going and going and any sign of wanting to do something fun meant we were slacking or just plain lazy? So many of my fellow femmepreneurs always seem to feel bad when they’re not working or doing something connected to work. It’s like we believe that we have to be constantly chained up and on the go. My new mindset is that the work I do is just one part of me. It’s not me, only a creative expression and to enjoy this life I’m blessed to have, I need to pause and just enjoy the sweet and pleasurable things.
Make some time for yourself soon. It could be as simple as taking 15 minutes each day uninterrupted to just sit in your favorite chair, sip your coffee slowly and read or just relax. Or put on some music, sit on your patio and have a nice cold beer while you watch the sun go down. You can find simple ways to make time for you right within your space. without even leaving the house. Do it soon. You’re so worth it.
Carlana Charles is the visionary and editor-in-chief of FemmePowered. She is a womanist, writer, speaker, story midwife and facilitator of meaningful and engaging conversations. When she is not working in or on FemmePowered, she can be found resting, baking, reading or scribbling furiously in her journal whilst sipping wine or coffee, sometimes both at the same time. She is currently working on her first book and hopes to release it in September 2018.