Domestic violence and self care – An interview

Hello all yuh! So last night I did a Facebook Be Live with Mellany Paynter of Mellany Motivates. Mellany is all about promoting self-care among women of color. In my last post, I shared an audio interview I did with her. Last night, we turned the tables. We talk about the catalyst behind FemmePowered, my abuse story, self-care and women of color. This is the first ever video interview where I share my story and experience with domestic violence and the strategies I used to find healing and wholeness. It’s raw, open and my truth. Check it out below and feel free to leave a comment. CarlanaCarlana Charles is the visionary and editor-in-chief of FemmePowered. She is a womanist, writer, speaker, story midwife and facilitator of meaningful and engaging conversations. When she is not working in or on FemmePowered, she can be found resting, baking, reading or scribbling furiously in her journal…

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Victim blaming and shaming needs to end.

The one thing that bothers me with our new, connected age, is how easily it allows people to hide behind their tiny screens and spew hate, violence and lack of empathy. We are in an age where we are more connected globally, but less so in ways that matter. Less love, less care, less understanding. Recently, I was reading the comments under an article about a woman who opted to let her partner walk free of domestic violences charges. This man had beaten her so badly, that she was confined to a wheelchair, and she did not want him to feel the weight of the law. Her decision caused much controversy, and understandably so. However, I’m not going to be talking about that decision today, because the reality is that this was her decision to make. I don’t know this woman, her life, and why she would make such a call.…

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FemmePowered celebrates another birthday

FemmePowered celebrates another birthday today. I’m so thankful for all the places, people and experiences that this little blog and ever-growing community has brought me. I’m living proof that you can turn any mess into a message, build a platform, find your purpose but more importantly, create a community. On this anniversary, I spent the morning with a circle of women. And it was a literal circle too, as we sat around the huge round table of a friend. We had coffee, cake, laughs and shared our hearts with each other. Some of these woman have come through incredible storms, some navigating the maze of parenting in a technological age, and others just shared their words of wisdom. As I will always say, beautiful things happen when women come together in a spirit of love and openness. For me, it was a soulful and refreshing experience. Thank you all for your support…

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Rights & Freedoms Bill

The Rights & Freedoms Bill – It’s the most discussed, misunderstood and feared part of the constitution reform; and this worries me. I’m worried because we are less than a day away from the proposed changes to Grenada’s constitution and many are still confused and ill-informed of what the bill entails and how it can impact the way our country moves forward. There’s also been a lot of fear-mongering and hate-mongering by those who feel that the bill promotes a hidden agenda. This too worries me because the peddling of fear is what helped a controversial figure like Donald Trump become the President-Elect of the United States. Fear creates Phantoms that makes the things we are fearful of appear much larger than they are. And fear, coupled with ignorance can create a recipe for disaster. There has been a lot of debate on Bill #6, The Rights and Freedoms Bill. Some feel that…

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The post that changed it all

Facebook has this really neat feature called ‘memories’ that allows you to see posts you shared in the past. Today I got a reminder of what I like to consider the post that changed it all. The one that had about 400 shares and likes in less than two days, brought me an incredible wave of support and outpouring of love and helped increase the profile of FemmePowered and the story behind it. The one that took FemmePowered from a personal blog to a community and social enterprise. In case you’re new here, I’m sharing that post again, right under the pretty banner. Thank you for the support then, now and in the future. It means the world. Let’s keep having conversations about domestic abuse until we see meaningful change. And even then let’s still keep the conversation going. I’m inviting you to stay tuned to my upcoming webinar and…

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