Wholeness is yours for the taking.

You walk around with brokenness, believing that healing is beyond you. You use brokenness as a crutch, sometimes even a badge of honor, never daring the see what a whole life could look like. Fear, shame, self-doubt, and issues of unworthiness abound within. Yeah, I see, you sister girl, I see you. I see you and I know, because those who’ve been there identify with it in others. I have my insecurities. I’m sure you do, too. But I am determined in letting my truth speak louder than any broken image I may have of myself, and I am careful to not allow the world to inform the reality of who I am to me. I am thankful for the handful of women I know have my heart and I can call friends because they affirm me and encourage me when my crazy starts to show and the outer critic starts…

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Grace and Cocktails

There is an incredible urge to me to write this morning. I have felt this way for some time, but I have been hiding from the words.  Sad. You see, I have always connected with myself at the end of my pen. Something on a deeper level will surface, grab me and pull me in when I find the courage to put pen on papers and explore my inner workings and many layers. My words are powerful on many levels – they bring healing, clarity, peace, perspective, and help me extend grace to myself and others as well. Grace. Hmm. Oh, sweet grace. This word fills me up and etches on to the broken spaces within me like no other. It allows me to make meaning of my experiences and what lays before me. It allows me the opportunity to extend grace to myself and give others the grace to be…

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Penning the words – A journaling workshop

Can I be vulnerable with you for a moment? Yes? Thank you. I am deep in the throes of anxiety and panics attacks like never before. For most of the week, I have been feeling ‘funny’, even a bit sad for no real reason. I feel burdened for no cause I can think of and I am unsettled. This week has been rough. I have been struggling to get through sentences, my voice cracks for no reason, I feel weak, and I just want to take an extended nap. After speaking with a friend who would know, she was quick to point of that these are common symptoms of stress, anxiety, and depression. ‘Quit watching the news (I’m a news junkie) and get off Facebook! You are allowing the things that are happening globally and in the community to sap and deplete you.’ She is right. More than ever before, we…

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stop hiding behind the words

It’s been bubbling. Building slowly, and now it is rushing forth, bursting at the dams of your heart and mind. It’s the words that have been clawing at your fingers, the words that you have been hiding from, words that are struggling to get out. I’m here to tell you stop hiding from the words. The words you are hiding from hold the power to heal you and help you make meaning from your  experiences. Journaling tells us things about ourselves. And that can be scary, because sometimes we are not ready to confront the things that journaling can reveal about us. As a journal coach, when I work with women who’ve been through the aches and pains of life, many of them start opening up, and then they freeze up. Often they would say I don’t want to go there, meaning they don’t want to explore the story that’s…

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Dear men

I was inspired to write this post after personal experiences and those of a few close friends of mine. We have all been abused, two of us are divorced, one on her way out of a deeply abusive marriage. All of us still believe that there are good men out there. Men who are willing to put in the work to love and understand what it takes to engage with and love a woman who has been used and abused. So men, listen up, from our heart to yours. Notice I said men, right? Boys need not apply. Dear Men, Did you know that inside a hurt and abused woman is quite often, a frightened girl? She is hopeful that something better is around the corner, but her optimism is tainted by fear. In most instances, she’s not guided by fear but fear is there. And it makes her more watchful,…

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