stop hiding behind the words

It’s been bubbling. Building slowly, and now it is rushing forth, bursting at the dams of your heart and mind. It’s the words that have been clawing at your fingers, the words that you have been hiding from, words that are struggling to get out. I’m here to tell you stop hiding from the words. The words you are hiding from hold the power to heal you and help you make meaning from your  experiences. Journaling tells us things about ourselves. And that can be scary, because sometimes we are not ready to confront the things that journaling can reveal about us. As a journal coach, when I work with women who’ve been through the aches and pains of life, many of them start opening up, and then they freeze up. Often they would say I don’t want to go there, meaning they don’t want to explore the story that’s…

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Dear men

I was inspired to write this post after personal experiences and those of a few close friends of mine. We have all been abused, two of us are divorced, one on her way out of a deeply abusive marriage. All of us still believe that there are good men out there. Men who are willing to put in the work to love and understand what it takes to engage with and love a woman who has been used and abused. So men, listen up, from our heart to yours. Notice I said men, right? Boys need not apply. Dear Men, Did you know that inside a hurt and abused woman is quite often, a frightened girl? She is hopeful that something better is around the corner, but her optimism is tainted by fear. In most instances, she’s not guided by fear but fear is there. And it makes her more watchful,…

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Rest is my new hustle

I spent much of this month resting at every occasion I could get. A someone who would only sleep when tired and once held the belief that I’d rest when I was dead, a series of events forced me to turn off my computer, phone, and mind and head to my bedroom or the nearest couch. We live in a culture where busyness and hustle are celebrated and rest and rejuvenation only considered when our body dares to fight back or it is sold in the form of trips to the spa or a wellness getaway. It seems like there is little effort to stop, slow down and simply allow our minds, bodies, and spirits the chance to recharge. Rest has just become my new hustle. You see, my body is a temple and the housing of my dreams, plans, and aspirations. To harm the temple in the quest of…

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Your salary is not a bribe. Don’t quit your day job.

You’re dreaming about the day you’re the boss and you no longer have to answer to the man (or woman). Entrepreneurship looks cool, sexy and something you can so handle. But I want you to know that even though entrepreneurship is wonderful, it is not for everyone. Yes, sister girl. It is not. I’ve been self-employed for ten years and many times over those years I have questioned my logic for making this choice and I have contemplated re-joining the workforce. Quite often, aspiring business owners walk into entrepreneurship unprepared for the rigors of business ownership and it affects them and those closest to them greatly. Over the last five years, I have seen an increase in the push towards self-employment as more people want greater control over their financial future. Globally, women are at the forefront of this trend. You can’t blame them. The global economy has taken a tumble…

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Permission Granted

So often we live for the approval and permission of others. Why? I have never been one to need anyone’s permission to live my life my way, and I’ve never cared much for their consent and approval. It’s not because I’m cocky or selfish, but because I understand that as an adult, it is my responsibility to make choices for myself and to forge a path that leads to my happiness and me achieving the life I am creating. No one is more invested in that dream that I am. No one’s permission is needed. Today I am challenging you to give yourself permission to stop needing other people’s permission. You don’t need permission: To be happy To live life on your terms To shine and stand tall To dream another dream To re-invent yourself or your life To make the decisions that you feel are necessary for the life you…

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