On leaving social media

I’ve been quiet here for a social media for the last six weeks to two months. Social media is great in many ways, but as with most things, there’s a downside. Like the noise that comes with it. I decided to turn off the noise, lean into silence and stopped posting or deactivated most of my social media accounts. It was liberating to press some buttons and delete accounts. Twitter? Gone! Pinterest and Facebook, poof! Yet for some reason, I struggled with Instagram. The urge to see what others were posting and share what I felt would be a gem was great, but I resisted the urge. Now the time has come. Today, I’m saying goodbye to the gram and telling you about what I gained by giving up social media. I remember when social media used to be fun, and people were truly engaging with others. It seems like…

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Holding space

We met at the airy art gallery on the Carenage (Art Upstairs) that overlooks the water. All week, I’d been looking forward to the meeting and fleshing out of our collective and discussing our first event. As a creative and advocate, being part of something that brings transformation and makes meaning for others has a tendency to cause my heart to constrict and find breath again every at the very thought. So all week leading up to our meeting, I would jot notes in my phone or computer when an idea came to me. I did not want to miss a thing. Not intending to have the meeting on International Day of Women, it was a delightful serendipity to later realize that we would be meeting on this day. As a person who is big on signs, this was a good omen, to me.  The stars aligned in support of…

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Create space in your life for yourself

How have you all been? It’s been a minute, hasn’t it? I’ve been doing others things that have kept me away from this space, all in the interest of self-care. Yes, I know you’re probably tired of hearing this oh-so-popularized buzzword, but it’s true. Self-care matters. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Since I last touched in I’ve been spending a lot of time taking in podcasts, listening to audiobooks, spending time with those people that are really important to me, reading, exercising and getting a lot of rest. Since starting FemmePowered, I have been going, going, going. If I’m not planning an event, I reviewing one, preparing content for the blog, writing articles for other sites, partnering with others with the same passion for women and community. Having and maintaining a self-care practice has been missing from my life for a long time. And I have felt the impact of its…

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All ends lead the new beginnings

In a few hours, it will be 2018. As I reflect on this past year, I am thankful for the blessings, the lessons, the challenges, the highs, lows and the grace to endure. In many ways, this was my best year and I am excited about the personal and professional direction I am stepping into in 2018. On the 15th December, FemmePowered turned three. I didn’t share anything on the blog or social media as I have done in previous years because the mood that came and went with the day was introspective. And I was not reflecting on my journey as a broken and battered woman blogging to make sense of the pain and shame associated with her broken body and heart, thanks to an abusive marriage. Instead, I was reflecting on how much meaning FemmePowered has made for individuals and the community, and I was thinking of ways…

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My ancestors are my entourage

This week promises to be challenging on so many levels. But I am ready. I have the love of those who have me, my inner strength and the unrivaled power of my ancestors. I am learning to channel them (my ancestors) because they are wise and loving and they have gone before me. They are a roadmap and guide to my present and even future. Yes, Roadmaps and Guides. So when I walk into a situation, I never go alone. I bring my people with me. I bring everyone who has loved me with me when I face a potential client or a disturbing challenge. I summon the boldness of my maternal and paternal grandmas, who were gutsy, feisty, fearless, unapologetic, graceful and strong women. On reflection, I now see them as disrupters and feminists, ahead of their time in many ways. I also channel the grace of my uncle,…

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