All ends lead the new beginnings

In a few hours, it will be 2018. As I reflect on this past year, I am thankful for the blessings, the lessons, the challenges, the highs, lows and the grace to endure. In many ways, this was my best year and I am excited about the personal and professional direction I am stepping into in 2018. On the 15th December, FemmePowered turned three. I didn’t share anything on the blog or social media as I have done in previous years because the mood that came and went with the day was introspective. And I was not reflecting on my journey as a broken and battered woman blogging to make sense of the pain and shame associated with her broken body and heart, thanks to an abusive marriage. Instead, I was reflecting on how much meaning FemmePowered has made for individuals and the community, and I was thinking of ways…

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My ancestors are my entourage

This week promises to be challenging on so many levels. But I am ready. I have the love of those who have me, my inner strength and the unrivaled power of my ancestors. I am learning to channel them (my ancestors) because they are wise and loving and they have gone before me. They are a roadmap and guide to my present and even future. Yes, Roadmaps and Guides. So when I walk into a situation, I never go alone. I bring my people with me. I bring everyone who has loved me with me when I face a potential client or a disturbing challenge. I summon the boldness of my maternal and paternal grandmas, who were gutsy, feisty, fearless, unapologetic, graceful and strong women. On reflection, I now see them as disrupters and feminists, ahead of their time in many ways. I also channel the grace of my uncle,…

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Wholeness is yours for the taking.

You walk around with brokenness, believing that healing is beyond you. You use brokenness as a crutch, sometimes even a badge of honor, never daring the see what a whole life could look like. Fear, shame, self-doubt, and issues of unworthiness abound within. Yeah, I see, you sister girl, I see you. I see you and I know, because those who’ve been there identify with it in others. I have my insecurities. I’m sure you do, too. But I am determined in letting my truth speak louder than any broken image I may have of myself, and I am careful to not allow the world to inform the reality of who I am to me. I am thankful for the handful of women I know have my heart and I can call friends because they affirm me and encourage me when my crazy starts to show and the outer critic starts…

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Wintering Season

I’m a doer. I’m always busy, always planning, always on the go. Slow does not come naturally. My mind will not allow it, but I am learning to move at an unhurried pace. Even with my writing and blogging and the pace, I put on events. For a while, I have been quiet here, and it’s because I felt like it was necessary to be quiet. The words did not come easily, and the inspiration to share valuable material just wasn’t there. I understood that this was my wintering season – a period where I will rest from this space. You can’t give from a place of emptiness. You need respite, self-care inspiration, wisdom and more to make an impact, especially with words. So I wintered because I recognized I need to do so if I was to continue making this space worthy of my time and your attention. At times…

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Sexual abusers and pedophiles do not only have penises.

What a busy month we have been having on our little island on matters of sexual abuse of minors! Grown folk have been having sex with children for ages, instances often being swept under the rug based on the perpetrators influence or how deep their pockets ran. We all know stories of parents being paid off to keep things quiet, so it’s a beautiful thing to see that as a community Grenadians are speaking with a collective voice that says enough is enough. I’m loving the public outcry and how the community has been mobilizing. Seeing yesterday’s march against child sexual abuse makes me believe that once the public continues to support victims as they come forward, we keep the conversation going, and we see changes in the legal structure to ensure perps are held to the full extent of the law, this societal scourge can gradually become a thing…

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