Call her Grace

Call her Grace

Who is this woman? This woman is strength. She is love and she is the walking, living and breathing manifestation of determination and resilience. This woman is beauty. Not the type that fades away, but beauty that comes from a place beneath the layers of skin, where real beauty resides. This woman is a giver, a lover, a keeper, a helper.

But this woman did not always know this. She did not know who she was and she was yet to comprehend her worth. You see, she let circumstances and people and their treatment of her, define her worth and inform her reality. This woman has been used, abused, discarded and disregarded, again and again and again. This woman has been broken so many times, it is a wonder that she can even pick up her pieces. But pick up herself she does, with scarred, trembling and bleeding fingers. To the world she may appear battered and broken because sometimes, her branches look weak but her roots are strong. There may be callouses on her hands but her feet hold firm.

This woman is Grace. Call her Grace, because it is the Grace of Him who created her, Him who called her, Him who keeps her, in which she stands, lives and breathes.

For years this woman allowed others to inform her reality based on their perception of her. And for years she gave the best of herself to people who did not deserve her. But this woman grew, albeit slowly, she learned and is still learning to embrace herself, love her flaws, and avoid shrinking because others may find her intimidating or ‘too much‘. She now stands in her truth and speaks it, even when her voice trembles. She embraces her story, refuses to be defined by it and tells it no matter how uncomfortable others may feel. It is her story you see and she is not in the business of sanitizing it for the comfort of others. She found herself at the end of a pen, and now relishes in the things that make her Grace.

So she owned her quirks, reconciled with her past, and embraced all shades and sides of her. But at first, she struggled. She fell among the rocks, kicked hard at thorns and hurt herself and could no longer move. But it was there she found Grace and had an encounter with self-love that smacked her so hard in the face, that she got up and fell in love with herself. She embraced herself and decided that only she would write the narrative of her life, not others. Then, she set on a course of creating a life that she craved, on her terms. You see, she recognized that the longest relationship she’d have with anyone was the one with herself, and she was determined to make it her most rewarding, most successful, most important.

Don’t call her by her past, don’t define her by her mistakes or her struggles. Call her Grace. It is what keeps her, what saves her each day, and it’s what informs her reality and shape her consciousness.



  1. Rose Hill
    April 5, 2017 / 10:37 am

    All the motivation I need to start my day! Very reflective. Namaste.

    • Carlana
      April 5, 2017 / 1:10 pm

      Thank you, Ms. Hill!

  2. April 5, 2017 / 7:14 pm

    Hi dear Carlana! Your writing really touches the very core of the soul. I really felt your soul in those words. Amazing Grace of God ❤

  3. April 12, 2017 / 10:17 am

    Fantastic post! I love Grace. Period! :-). You have a fantastic way of putting things. Very talented writer.

    • Carlana
      April 12, 2017 / 12:12 pm

      Thank you, KemKem. I’m blogging over here, too!

  4. April 12, 2017 / 3:18 pm

    I love this so much. I definitely resonate with Grace’s story and it’s definitely been such a journey. Great post.

  5. Jay Colby
    April 12, 2017 / 11:41 pm

    This article can help anyone through this journey called life. Great motivation to start the day!

  6. April 13, 2017 / 12:46 am

    Very nice..I love the play on words and Grace is a beautiful thing.

  7. April 13, 2017 / 10:14 pm

    This is beautiful. We all need Grace. We can all benefit from knowing someone with strong roots.

  8. Ra'Nesha
    April 14, 2017 / 1:26 am

    Wow this is everything inked out! Grace…this post is a path maker and pillar of motivation

  9. Kita
    April 14, 2017 / 9:07 am

    How beautiful is this piece. Just call her grace. Amen! I always believe in giving someone grace regardless of their circumstances or past.

  10. Tanya Barnett
    April 14, 2017 / 12:02 pm

    Great reminder. I am taking this approach with my daughters who are 16 and 25 years old. I am choosing to see them this way.

  11. April 14, 2017 / 6:42 pm

    Love grace! So beautiful and well written.

  12. April 15, 2017 / 1:31 pm

    Very beautiful! Love what you’ve written here.

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