Sexual abusers and pedophiles do not only have penises.

What a busy month we have been having on our little island on matters of sexual abuse of minors! Grown folk have been having sex with children for ages, instances often being swept under the rug based on the perpetrators influence or how deep their pockets ran. We all know stories of parents being paid off to keep things quiet, so it’s a beautiful thing to see that as a community Grenadians are speaking with a collective voice that says enough is enough. I’m loving the public outcry and how the community has been mobilizing. Seeing yesterday’s march against child sexual abuse makes me believe that once the public continues to support victims as they come forward, we keep the conversation going, and we see changes in the legal structure to ensure perps are held to the full extent of the law, this societal scourge can gradually become a thing…

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Penning the words – A journaling workshop

Can I be vulnerable with you for a moment? Yes? Thank you. I am deep in the throes of anxiety and panics attacks like never before. For most of the week, I have been feeling ‘funny’, even a bit sad for no real reason. I feel burdened for no cause I can think of and I am unsettled. This week has been rough. I have been struggling to get through sentences, my voice cracks for no reason, I feel weak, and I just want to take an extended nap. After speaking with a friend who would know, she was quick to point of that these are common symptoms of stress, anxiety, and depression. ‘Quit watching the news (I’m a news junkie) and get off Facebook! You are allowing the things that are happening globally and in the community to sap and deplete you.’ She is right. More than ever before, we…

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Embrace the season

What’s up people? It’s been a minute, hasn’t it? Usually, I have so much to share and tell, that I post at least once a week. It’s been different lately. I was surprised when I found myself with a jumble of words, emotions, and ideas, but lacking the desire to share. Generally, I would fight this and force my way, but I am learning that there is a season to share and season to be still. I am still in my still and silent season, and I will come out only at the pace I am supposed to. We are so wired to be doing and to be busy, that embracing stillness and silence is a challenge to us. We don’t like the silence because often times it forces us to ponder and reflect. But we need the stillness to hear our inner voice and discern the direction of the Divine,…

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stop hiding behind the words

It’s been bubbling. Building slowly, and now it is rushing forth, bursting at the dams of your heart and mind. It’s the words that have been clawing at your fingers, the words that you have been hiding from, words that are struggling to get out. I’m here to tell you stop hiding from the words. The words you are hiding from hold the power to heal you and help you make meaning from your  experiences. Journaling tells us things about ourselves. And that can be scary, because sometimes we are not ready to confront the things that journaling can reveal about us. As a journal coach, when I work with women who’ve been through the aches and pains of life, many of them start opening up, and then they freeze up. Often they would say I don’t want to go there, meaning they don’t want to explore the story that’s…

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Dear men

I was inspired to write this post after personal experiences and those of a few close friends of mine. We have all been abused, two of us are divorced, one on her way out of a deeply abusive marriage. All of us still believe that there are good men out there. Men who are willing to put in the work to love and understand what it takes to engage with and love a woman who has been used and abused. So men, listen up, from our heart to yours. Notice I said men, right? Boys need not apply. Dear Men, Did you know that inside a hurt and abused woman is quite often, a frightened girl? She is hopeful that something better is around the corner, but her optimism is tainted by fear. In most instances, she’s not guided by fear but fear is there. And it makes her more watchful,…

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