Ever since I lost my dad as a young girl, I make a point of letting the people who mean something and matter to me know just how I feel about them and I do this on a regular basis. I encourage others to do the same, too. Not only does this keep your relationships strong, in the event something happens, you don’t feel saddled with the guilt of not letting them knowing how you feel. I come from a family where affection is a big thing. Even as adults my mom still make a big fuss over us and we dote on her and each other. It’s not an uncommon sight to see a one of us fighting to sit on her lap, even as adults.
Everyone’s family is different and trying to sit on your mom’s lap at 30 may be unfathomable to you, but letting your family and friends know you care, know that you love, appreciate and value them shouldn’t be.
Parents, let your kids know they are beautiful, loved, unique and special. I taught 5th grade for one year and I can honestly tell you, that children that receive these positive affirmations tend to do better in school and generally have a positive self image. Girls that are made to feel special in the home come to have an expectation of good treatment and care from their future partners because they are accustomed hearing they are loved, they are beautiful and appreciated and when the boys come around, oftentimes with their sweet-little-nothings, they don’t fall too easily! Well, that’s my observation, at least.
Tell your spouse and partner how much they mean to you. How would you feel if something happened and you lost them, never really letting them know the treasure they were to you?
So, that’s it from me for today. Nothing grand in today’s posting. Just an encouragement to express your love and appreciation. Doesn’t have to be to your child, spouse or family, but it can be a great friend that is always there, a co-worker that makes working with a joy, the teacher that stays back after school to help your child or that neighbor who has the neighborhood at heart.
Challenge – just tell one person today how much you appreciate them and I guarantee you will feel just as good as they will!
Carlana Charles is the visionary and editor-in-chief of FemmePowered. She is a womanist, writer, speaker, story midwife and facilitator of meaningful and engaging conversations. When she is not working in or on FemmePowered, she can be found resting, baking, reading or scribbling furiously in her journal whilst sipping wine or coffee, sometimes both at the same time. She is currently working on her first book and hopes to release it in September 2018.