My mother has and continues to be a source of encouragement and strength to me. As a child growing up, she worked tirelessly the way single mothers tend to do. It was important to her that we got the life she never had and so she set us on a path to experience the best future possible. And it’s easy to simplify all she did in the last sentence, but watching her hitchhike to work to ensure that we went to school showed me that her comfort took second place to us getting an education. Seeing her pretend she was not hungry so that we could eat the little bits of food she was able to scrape together made her a combination of Mother Teressa and Wonder Woman rolled into one. Her thrift, efficiency, and household-economics still blow me away to this day.
We’re all grown now and living our lives, making her proud in our own ways and I would venture to say, showing her that those sacrifices were worth it. And I am now able to watch her move from the stage of living for her children to living for herself. It’s lovely to see how this has changed her. She’s taken the time to do the things she has wanted to do, pursue new hobbies, spend money on herself without feeling guilty and live in a way that does not center around our needs.
She surprised me a few years ago when she started a jewelry making small business, a talent I did not even know she had (apparently she did not but Pinterest brought it out) and now she is surprising me again by going back into the classroom…. in her sixties. Yes, my mama is one of those women who feel they aren’t too old to dream another dream, pursue another passion and become the best versions of themselves by unleashing their innermost desires. Ma, I celebrate you. You are amazing and you are definitely gold to me.
I’m sharing not just to show off, but to inspire you to action, encourage you to start dreaming, start doing and hopefully nudge you in the directions of your dreams. Ladies, no matter your age, you can make steps to pursue your dream and create the life you crave.
So the second installment of Cocktails & Conversation comes up tomorrow. You can still register if you have not. In this installment, we’ll be discussing intimacy, relationship and all the things women want to know about men, not from me, not from your girlfriends or the other women present, but from a man. Come ready with your questions and don’t be afraid to share them. He’s definitely ready! This session will be followed up with a conversation on why our stories matter and how we should honor them. Come down to Whisper Cove and spend some time in the fellowship of women. I’d love to have you. I am still amazed at that relationships and friendships that have been formed between myself and some of the women from the last event. We’ve been spending much time together, encouraging, building and nurturing each other to unleash our innermost selves and create lives that are blissful, brilliant and bold. A few of the women even came together to start a business. How epic and dope is that?! You can register HERE if you’d like to join us. The cost is EC $54 and includes a cocktail and a meal. I hope to see you and I wish you a happy week.
Carlana Charles is the visionary and editor-in-chief of FemmePowered. She is a womanist, writer, speaker, story midwife and facilitator of meaningful and engaging conversations. When she is not working in or on FemmePowered, she can be found resting, baking, reading or scribbling furiously in her journal whilst sipping wine or coffee, sometimes both at the same time. She is currently working on her first book and hopes to release it in September 2018.