You are whole all by yourself

 

And you, you scare people because you are whole all by yourself – Lauren Alex Hooper

I’m going to add to the quote above:

So don’t shrink. For you were designed to stand tall. Don’t run, because you were designed to stride confidently. Don’t deny your past, because it all conspired to make you YOU. Don’t bow your head to the critics, because the best of them, ain’t better than you and the worst of them cannot be compared with you. Don’t dim your light because others around you refuse to rise to the great light within them. Don’t deny your royalty in exchange for a cheap crown. Celebrate you. All of you. For you are whole all by yourself and you recognize that you don’t need anyone or anything external to complete you. For you are enough. You are sufficient and you are whole, all by yourself and in and through Him that designed you.

 Carlana Charles | FemmePowered.ORG

Hello! It’s been a while, hasn’t it?

Yup…. It’s been 25 days since I’ve blogged here. I feel a bit ashamed. A bit. You see, since launching this community in December 2014, I’ve managed to average at least 4 posts a month but this month I couldn’t make it happen. And it kinda made me feel bad. FemmePowered is a space I love. A bit of my heart resides here, within these posts. It has also been a place that helped me to find myself again after a tumultuous period in my life. Through blogging for me, just sharing my thoughts and feelings on the things that happened to me or what I was observing around me, I connected with women all over the world with their own stories to tell. Not all had endured spousal abuse as I did, but all had an experience that was the catalyst for a life change. So in many ways, this space has been near and dear to me.

Yet, I couldn’t be consistent this month. Not that I didn’t want to. It’s just that life got in the way. Work, personal commitments, personal challenges and a host of other reasons kept me from this space for almost an entire month. I feel a slight twinge but I recognize that this is just how life is. And as much as I want to say I won’t stay away this long again, there are no guarantees in this blogging business, especially when you blog from the heart and with intent, and refuse to put content out for the sake of putting out content. So if my heart is broken, I don’t want to pour that brokenness into this space (not that I am saying my heart was broken, it was just a little cracked) and if I am overwhelmed with work and the pressures of life, I don’t have the focus to post with meaning. So I stepped back and let time unwind and wondered when I’d post again and what I’d share about. And while playing on Instagram tonight I found the words of Lauren Alex Hooper (the graphic above) and it deeply resonated with me.

Her words were a reminder to me than even when I feel broken, I am whole. And like I have said here repeatedly, I am enough. In talking to girlfriends and other women over the past three weeks, I realize that so many of us are struggling to feel whole, whether it’s spiritually, financially, emotionally and otherwise. Or in some cases we feel challenged because we are repeatedly being told that we are ‘too independent’, our personalities ‘too strong’ and just having a hard time fitting in and connecting with people who understand us. But we don’t have to fit in. I don’t have to fit in. But I also recognize that not trying to fit in makes so many people uncomfortable. It ‘s like you’re going against the grain and it scares them. So let me remind you: you scare people because you are whole all by yourself. And that is not a bad thing.

So don’t shrink. For you were designed to stand tall. Don’t run, because you were designed to stride confidently. Don’t deny your past, because it all conspired to make you YOU. Don’t bow your head to the critics, because the best of them, ain’t better than you and the worst of them cannot be compared with you. Don’t dim your light because others around you refuse to rise to the great light within them. Don’t deny your royalty in exchange for a cheap crown. Don’t try to be understood for it is not your duty to explain your personality for anyone. And for goodness sake, don’t try to fit in! Celebrate you. All of you. For you are whole all by yourself and you recognize that you don’t need anyone to complete you. For you are enough. You are sufficient and you are whole, all by yourself and in and through Him that designed you.

Happy Monday. Hope to see you again soon. You can subscribe to the blog and be notified when I post again and while you’re at it, feel free to catch the occasional newsletter. I’ve heard it’s pretty good 🙂

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